Great Expectations !

Its amazing how some people have very high expectations of what they can achieve or accomplish in life. To some, it is healthy and it is the way to go in order to accomplish your goals. But to others, it is pure misery.

To be able to live up to your own expectations is one thing, but to live up to others is completely suppressing. I myself am calling it EXPECTATION PHOBIA. Expectation phobia is best defined as the fear of one's expectations because of the possibility of failure.

"Aim high", "Reach for the starts", are all common "push it to the limit" sayings that one may hear often when aiming for a certain goal. But what if, his hand is too short, or his leg was broken, or, god forbid, kryptonite was around.

Even though a lot may disagree, a lot may believe in "the secret", and a lot think that if you set your mind to do something, you'd do it, but, for the sake of your own health and mine, step it down a notch.

If there were no expectations, there'd be no disappointments!!!

True Colors

"I see your true colors... thats why I love you".

It is funny how colors have meanings in feelings. The grass is greener, green of jealous, red of love, yellow of friendship, blue of sad, grey of dull, white of pure... etc. But if these were the colors you see the people with then do you see the colors through your eyes or are you really seeing what they're wearing?

Just like beauty is in the eye of the beholder, this can hold the same meaning. if you wear red glasses you'll see the world as red. Catch my drift? So is it what you see or what is shown?

Lets assume that we don't wear glasses that color the world red, and that we see people for the true "colors" that they are. Do you think we'll pick our favorite colors and love them or is it like a rainbow thing? Let's face it, we as humans are very selective. and the fact that we are somewhat perceptive to good and bad at the same time, we think we are accepting beings. But the truth of the matter is, we're not.

It's not me, It's you!

I think we have always been there, the very very bad place in the corner of a crowded room with the words "it's not you, its me" barfed out of someone's mouth. These words usually come as comforting explanations in order not to make the person they are ditching feel bad. Bottom line is, its a lie! It may be a "white lie" as some would call it, but, a lie is a lie even if you paint it red.

Even though it may actually work and make a person feel somewhat better, I just want to clarify that when that phrase is said, it only means the exact opposite: IT'S NOT ME, IT's YOU! To make things clearer, it is YOU that is not functioning properly or meshing with ME.

But why do you think people use it as often as they do? When the whole world knows that it doesn't mean what it means and that it means what it doesn't, do they still feel better hearing those words? Have we really become so emotionally gullible that we need to feed on any lies said to make us feel better, even if we don't believe it?

Of course, a nice gesture is a nice gesture, but when that gesture sends the person to the wrong room it just does all the wrong damage. Metaphorically speaking: a person diagnosed with the wrong disease, gets treated for something else, and ills at the other.

As a person that doesn't believe in complete and utter blunt honesty, and as a person that doesn't believe in false compliments, take this as a piece of advice: say the truth, or don't say it at all, and when you do say the truth, tell it like it is:

IT'S NOT ME, IT'S YOU !!!

Distorted Perfection

It is a common thought that one is one's best critic, but it is in my personal opinion, that this thought is wrong almost 90 percent of the time.

If a person is given the gift of thought and sight, "a good eye for detail", that person may just be a good candidate to be his or her own critic. But what happens when he or she is blinded to their own faults, or worse, see too much?

Its funny how the answer to almost all questions in this universe is answered by two extremes! Everything is either Black or white, good or bad, or in this case, insightful or blind! There are only very few people that are "grey" in this world.

Here are the two best examples:

(Looking at the mirror)
GIRL WHO SEES TOO MUCH
OH dear, I need to lose 10 pounds, get botox, peel this tuck that, scrub this, lipo that, wax this, color that.. etc
GIRL WHO SEES NOTHING
Ouh i look FINE. This looks good. hmm.. Maybe a new haircut.

(Going out)
GIRL WHO SEES TOO MUCH
Oh my. I should have worn my other sandals, these make my feet look big. (fidget fidget fidget).. oh my GOD my HAIR and rain don't mesh. Hey, can you see my panties in this?

GIRL WHO SEES NOTHING
The weather is nice. Oh look at them pretty boys looking at me. i must look pretty gooooood..


(In relationships)
GIRL WHO SEES TOO MUCH
He thinks I'm fat. I'm sure he thinks I'm FAT.
He left because I'm FAT. I'm so UGLY.
No one will every love me because I'm FAT and UGLY!!

GIRL WHO SEES NOTHING
Honey get me a bucket of KFC on your way home.
THAT BASTARD wont find anyone like me.
I need to go out tonight and flirt with a sexy man.

Both oppose each other completely. Who has it right though? Could a person really be too harsh with one self or too mellow? If art needs critics, food needs critics, articles, books, everything needs critics, then why aren't humans good at it? If some are too harsh and unreasonable, I am sure that Leonardo Davinci pushed himself hard to make the Mona Lisa as perfect as he can. Even though it is just a painting, it resembles him!

In the fast world of today, we are given only one chance and written off an judged based upon, mostly, looks. Then, there is no shame in perfecting that "image" that is taken at a first glance. Set aside extreme perfection, I believe that a person should be able to be given the freedom, of at least though, of wanting to be perfect.

Even though some people do go to unbelievable extremes that result in just making matters worse, i believe that one's own critic is a critic that should be pleased within reason. The trick is not to go by the rules of the universe on what a person should like, but, to go by pleasing yourself.

I want to look good so that i think that i look good!

Let's Play

There are millions of different games played out on this planet. Monopoly, Dominos, Poker, Solitaire, Spiderweb, Twister, Hide & Seek, Tag... etc. and we all almost know how to play it all. But what really defines the rules of the game? or better yet, What is the game that the rules define?

It has been a common metaphor to call how people interact as "games", BUT have you ever seen the manual or the guidelines? Where does the book of rules go to when you really need it?

I have always been on a "lucky streak". It is what happens when pure luck combines with a small understanding of the game where you win not because of your pure wit, but because karma has decided it you need it. But in real life, that beginner's luck is just pure misery. What happens when you want to move on and advance to the next level?

Evidently, people get different manuals to different games, problems is, how do you know who's playing what? It can be very chaotic playing with a different set of rules in the wrong game, especially when that game happens to be life where the stakes are higher.

Games has also been associated with bets and stakes, where the winner takes all and the loser goes home. If this is life we're playing, is it ever safe to play? If you're a gambler, that game can be the right adrenaline rush needed to experience life on the dangerous side, but, do you really want to risk it all? The problem is, in life, almost everyone is addicted to gambling and everyone is putting all bets on the table.

Some get good at it, some play for fun, some play for keeps, some are just lucky, and some just aren't. For those who are good at it, how well does that poker face go? Could it be so good that even they believe it or is it simply resembling what it usually does: an undefined facial expression that pretends to be what it isn't but only they know the truth behind the deal?

When you win, you win it all, but when you lose, you lose it ALL.

Picture Perfect

In the old days, Ads used to be painted not photographed, Vogue covers were painted for years on since it started. However, today it seems that we are falling under more and more pressure of having the perfect look for the perfect pictures.

Looking good has evolved from being genetically blessed with a photogenic face to having a good photo editing program. I being a big supporter of photoshop, without sounding too hypocritical, believe that that picture perfect profile pic has become more of an obsession for this digital generation.

Don't get me wrong, I love me that picture that hides all the flaws and flaunts all the goods, but to an extent, its like hiding some truth from the world. Of course the whole world does not need to know the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, but how far can you really go?

The perfect camera, the perfect angle, the perfect pose, the perfect colors, the perfect flash settings, the perfect background, all decide to have sex together, have a baby, and that baby is the offspring of an ugly person with the gracious givings of lady manipulation. But, when that child goes to school, and his schoolmates want to meet his parents, what happens? Is he really going to where the "if you think I'm cute you should see my mom" t-shirt?

Even though we're under the pressure of a pressurized airbrush machine that makes everything perfect, how far can we go? Can we reach the point where we see everything through a lens that airbrushes everything and be blinded to reality?

Then we go to the old as time debate: is not telling the whole truth the same as lying? I believe its not so I'll be on the pro team. I believe every person wants to point out their assets. Girl with big boobs will flaunt it, guy with great abs flex it, woman with pretty lips will pout it, etc. they all want to highlight their sell points and hide their flaws. Its human nature, we all know that no one is perfect, but we want the image to be.

Picture this scenario: you walk into a store to buy a coffee machine. Coffee machine happens to be in a box and not on display, but a picture is on the box, and the box highlights that it makes instant coffee in seconds, doesn't require any work, just fill and push the button. You buy, you go home, you try to work it but, its too complicated!! Would you feel cheated? or would you use the rational side of your brain and say: my fault didn't read the whole description and take it out of the box at the store.

Everyone should feel good about themselves even though if that version of themselves is a combination of perfected computer skills. However, EVERYONE should also know that it comes with a warning sign that reads: I'm not telling the whole truth, you should read into me. Who knows, maybe you'd read into it so well you'd make a science or an art out of it: Seeing the other side of the story.

First Come, First Serve

Ever felt that the world has nothing new? Let me rephrase that... Ever wanted to invent something new and have found it to be already in existence?

If you are a born genius, STOP READING. If your are normal like me, proceed to check out.

People are always in search of new ways to come up with something innovative and make money out of it. But in 2010, it is merely impossible to do so unless you are Bill Gates or similar. Every other good idea has already been done and taken. There are a million bakeries, a million restaurants, a million coat hangers, and a gazillion paper clips. What is left is an even harder task to take that clay dough and make something new out of it, which you'll find out in the end, already exists on the other side of the globe.

It should no longer be called a "dog eat dog world". It is now simply "fist come, first serve world". So hurry in and get your piece of this lovely world we call our home.