House Wife 2016

Last year I decided that I am not cut out to be in the working force. Maybe it was a combination of bad working environments and no reward, nonetheless I left. I wanted to be a 'house wife'. 

So what does a house wife do? Basically  clean, cook, and maintain a house. Oh not to forget socialize. But in 2016, we have maids or maid companies that clean for us, we eat out or order in "for a change", and our husbands change all the lightbulbs. 

Correct me if I'm wrong, but as a house wife today, I actually havr NOTHING to do! Even hobbies are out of fashion. Hobbies today are shortlisted to writing a blog or becoming a fashionista! 

Help! 

It's a Man's World!

Let me start off by stating one thing; I am NOT a feminist nor do I want to be, however, I AM anti expectations from me just because I am a female. 

A few days ago, my insecurities went viral because of a small conversation I had with a someone (male) close to me (not my husband don't worry!). It all started out with me being the only girl wearing sneakers and wanting to go on a night out on the town in Dubai. If you've been there, you know that is merely impossible for a girl to get in a "cool" place wearing flats even if they were made of gold. For some reason heels are for safety reasons. Or maybe if I was taller on a wobbly thin heel is better for me who knows, but nonetheless, I was in sneakers and if you know me, I'm always in sneakers, so I got told off for blowing everyone's plans because of my shoes (I wasn't part of the plans to start with). When I tried to defend myself because I hate being in pain just for society standards (I also have bunion problems) I was told to suck it up and wear the freakin heels! So I tried to be sassy and say: have you ever worn heels before to know how I feel?! He said no, but that's not my job! Really?! Is it my JOB to wear heels?! 

It didn't just stop there, he went on to tell me that I've gotten too comfortable since I got married! That I dress like a slouch and have forgotten how to be ladylike. Then my mind read the hint he was trying to give me: Like my entire life my aim was to get married then get fat! I have been more insecure about my weight and body image since I got married than I have ever been my entire life. It's like all my teenage monsters came back to congratulate me about getting married. It's not a welcomed visit and they've certainly overstayed they're welcome! 

Why are we expected to dress up and look pretty all the time? What is this male dominated world we live in?! I'm not saying stop shaving your legs and stop wearing your bras, but if I don't wear heels it shouldn't make me any less of a woman! And if I'm not a certain size or fit, and I don't recollect having a standard to go by, then that doesn't make me uglier! 

I say this trying to change people's minds and expectations about what women are expected to look like, but I still judge myself all the time for not looking like the girl in the magazine! Maybe if people should stop having such expectations I would too and live in piece! 

Dear society,

Dear society, 

Please stop looking at me weirdly for not wearing a scarf or covering my face. Please stop thinking I'm a whore because I do that. Please stop giving my husband nasty looks like he can't tame me when I do. Please mind your own business, your probably up to no good yourselves! 

Please stop telling me I need to lose weight, being fat isn't the worst thing a person can be. Please stop lying to me and say I don't need to lose weight, we know that look. Please mind your worn business, I didn't ask you to carry me.

Please stop telling me and my husband it's time to have babies! It's not a game! And it's NONE of your business.

The uniform

So it's a lovely day well planned to head to the mall, watch a movie, and walk around. As soon as I walked in, I noticed that half the number of people are wearing uniforms, nanny uniforms! Is there a costume party I wasn't invited to or what is going on?! Why are taking over the mall?! 

It's a sad world where families think their out for some family quality time and spend it with the maid. I get it, sometimes just sometimes you really need her, but when you reaaaaaallly do, treat her as the human being she is and don't dress her in her uniform! It's so demeaning. It's just as bad as sitting her at the table next to you when you eat! 

If you don't think she should be treated like family then maybe she should be part of yours. Heck she might be more family than you are; she cooks, cleans, feeds, bathes, changes and more for your children who YOU should be taking care of. If you can't or don't have the time of the day, please appreciate what she does! 

Add and Subtract

Some people like to use the term 'negative' to describe a person who may be a pessimist, a downer, a non-believer, or just complains too much.

But if we just stick to basic maths, negative is just quantity.

If its just a quantity, then remember the rules of multiplying a negative number: a negative number multiplied by a positive number equals a negative number. A negative number multiplied by a negative number equals positive.

Today's lesson: get all those soul draining negative people together and make be happy!

The Guilt-trip Meter

Guilt-tripping has always been an effective way to get someone to do something, not to do something, or to get out of something you are guilty of.

Being a user guilt-tripping, you either are good, really good, or just plain bad. Being a victim of guilt-tripping, you may just be plain too nice and just plain used over and over again.

This is why I believe someone somewhere should invent the Guilt-trip Meter. This meter will be designed I let the 'nice' people tell I that is bullshit or guilt-shit (excuse my French). But until someone does, here are some basic rules:
1. If you are feeling guilt caused by someone for something that you did NOT do, they're users.
2. If you are feeling guilt cause by someone for something that you did DO and had to do, they're users.
3. If you are feeling guilt caused by someone for something that you did do and wanted to do anyways, they are users.
4. If you're doing something you shouldn't do but don't feel guilty than maybe you should.

Here's a small tip for users and receivers, wake up and smell the coffee.

The Generation of the Brokenhearted

When I was younger, the world was such a beautiful place and fairytales were believed in. But somewhere along the yellow brick road, Dorothy realized it was just a dream and cut the trip to Emerald city short. But, what if, you liked Munchkin land and the fairies? What if you really want those Glass slippers and meet your prince charming who will fight a dragon and give you the kiss of life?!
Let’s face it; times have changed!

Your tooth fairy is really your mother and she won’t wave her wand and turn a pumpkin into a wagon and you won’t make it to the ball.

My theory is that somewhere along the road, the children that were later to become our mothers have gotten that reality bite growing up and they’re trying to protect us from it. They all grew up believing in a modern fairytale where she meets the prince in disguise, fall in love, and live happily ever after. The sad truth is that over the past century, so many hearts have been broken that it is almost impossible to let your child watch Cinderella and not tell her: Sweetie, it aint gonna happen! We are our parents’ reaction to the world of disappointment that you grow inevitably pessimistic.

Think about it! Women are where they are today not because they have asked for equality and they deserve it, but because they got stepped on so many times and realized they need to stand on their own (no man needed) in order to survive. And this is catching on in our little “Arab” society.

10, 20 years ago, girls were brought up to believe in marriage and children. They were taught how to take care of their families and they were happy about it. Someone somewhere decided to pull the plug on that thought, and the attention has been shifted to a career path and leaving the children at home.

I am a personal believer that this alleged “Women’s Rights” movement has done more harm than good!

The real right we need is the right of choice and the support that comes with it. If I choose to be a working woman, so be it, if I don't, dont march on my parade!

Take back your rights we don’t want ‘em!